Why Loved Ones Refuse Care
and What to Do About It

Dear :

Becoming a caregiver, losing your memory, or needing care are three of the most unpredictable and feared phases of life. Providers in the medical and caring professionals can be insensitive to family caregivers navigating caregiving challenges due to limited specializations rather than possessing broad experience.

If you’re a family caregiver,

  • Does caring for your loved one make you feel guilty, angry, frustrated, or uncertain?

  • Are you feeling alone, embarrassed, unable or afraid to speak up for your own care and needs?

  • Are you exhausted from caregiving and feel you can’t say no?

  • Is the stress of your care situation affecting your home and work life or creating family conflict?

You’ve probably already noticed the longer you wait to act— the worse the situation becomes. You don’t know where to turn and you’ve tried to figure this out by yourself. I’ve helped thousands of caregivers and care recipients reduce stress and learn practical tips and tools to manage care situations.

I’ve reached the 20-year mark in the aging and caregiving industry and have helped thousands of caregivers individually through my website, Pamela D. Wilson, articles, videos, podcasts, radio program, and 1:1 prior work as a care manager, court-appointed guardian, and power of attorney.

I advocate for better standards of care and help family caregivers proactively advocate for loved ones and care for yourselves. After all, what happens if something happens to you? Who will care for your loved one?

Check out the features of this newsletter and consider forwarding a copy to a colleague you feel might benefit from this information.

  • Click HERE to gain access to my Family Caregiver Facebook Group called the Caregiving Trap that is by invitation only! You’re invited to join, post questions, and interact with other family caregivers. I’ll pop into the group, post articles, and answer your questions.

  • Check out the article, Why Loved Ones Refuse Care to help you work through care discussions with your parent, spouse, or other loved one.

  • Attend one of my first "On Demand" webinars on the subject of the benefit of care management. To attend my webinar on "Why Do I Need a Care Manager" click here to register and choose a time that works for you.  This isn’t a normal "run of the mill webinar" – it’s better!  The length is about 22 minutes – please share this information with other family caregivers who are unfamiliar with the benefits of care management support.

  • Access the FREE Caring Generation Library.  Check out caregiving articles in 30 different categories, and join for more behind the scenes information. There’s no cost.

  • Check out my book, The Caregiving Trap:  Solutions for Life's Unexpected Changes and watch a few short videos about information featured. The Caregiving Trap offers straightforward information and step-by-step exercises to help you solve caregiving challenges, set boundaries, and have conversations with loved ones about care needs.

Reduce caregiving stress and gain peace of mind by joining my family caregiver Facebook group and joining The Caring Generation FREE family caregiving library.

Featured Article
Why loved ones refuse care
By Pamela D. Wilson, CSA, MS, BS/BA, CG

How many times do we express a concern and the person to whom we’re speaking offers a suggestion? How many times does our mind immediately dismiss the suggestion rather than being curious and asking more questions? It’s human nature to prefer to vent and complain rather than solve our own problems. There are even times when we become irritated with the person offering the suggestion when they are only trying to help.

If this closed-minded response exists with us in the normal course of life why do we expect the situation to be different when conversing with a friend or family member who has health concerns or with a parent who has care needs? Regardless of our age, our response to change or suggestions depends on our level of self-esteem and willingness to accept and implement new ways of thinking and actions. None of us want to be questioned about our ability to perform day to day activities, the way we manage our financial matters, choosing friends, the frequency of social activities, family relationships, our health, weight, or exercise frequency.

Yet it’s exactly these areas, that when we age, that become critical to maintaining independence. If we refuse to pay attention to these areas of our lives when younger, guess what? We become our aging parents who currently refuse suggestions and resist care. We create a future for ourselves that we experience with our aging parents today that results in frustration and struggle.

Click Here to read the entire article

In gratitude and service,

Pamela D. Wilson
Caregiving Expert, Advocate & Speaker

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